Holding On To My Ex - "is it time to let go?"

Fell To Pieces

A Heart is too precious

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Funny Love Article - Before and After

How shall I describe the past relationship between my wife and I prior to our divorce? I will tell you what it was like. It was like a prize fight. We both wanted things to go our own way, but disagreements would always get in the way. We both were too overconfident to compromise with each other, we believed that what we have been taught by mom and dad was wiser than mere communication and understanding. We struggled with each other's habitual biases, she spent an hour on the phone talking long distance while I was in the mood for sex and lovemaking, and I would get the feeling of neglect when she in fact, wasn't neglecting me at all.  It was just something she always did before we got married, but when she did it after we were married, it was during the time when I needed her undivided attention. I gave her soapy oil massages while she was bathing at night, and after our baby boy was asleep and cuddled away, tucked under his warm blankets. We shared pizza pockets and chocolates for dessert. We drank wine after my insistence of a toast to the success of our "could-have-been" marriage. When I held her close to myself in bed, whispered in her ear, and caressed her with passion, she dreamed good dreams. I did what I could to make our relationship work. However, I was not an angel either. I had habitual biases too. Whenever Summer was approaching, I made it my sole duty to look for a second job in order to take my wife out to treat her to nice and better things, and because we were doing ok financially, and when there was no need for a second job, she thought that I was trying to find away to be away from her for reasons of cheating or dishonesty, when in fact, I was not trying to cheat, but I was looking for a way to afford a better lifestyle for the both of us. To make a long story short, it wasn't what we did, but it was the timing in which we did those things - which was wrong. Perhaps, timing is everything, not everything, but close enough to it in some aspects.

Love Story

Finding The Solution Too Late

 DIVORCE IS COSTLY
Divorce is costly in a number of ways, not just in court, but in the lives of the children, or the child who has to suffer from the reality of "single parenting." Children need a mother and a father in the home. I am speaking from experience, and I was a child who was considered a "baby's momma's baby." Today, there are too many baby's mommies and baby's daddies when it doesn't have to be. It's worth the compromise, and the time spent to communicate, and the effort to make sacrifices in order to keep the relationship between couples running smoothly. It was good having parents as guides until marriage, but after that, we must understand that a man has to leave his mother and father and become one flesh with his wife. A marriage has great ramifications. Divorce is a sign of weakness and selfishness. I was selfish in my relationship, and I therefore, selfishly divorced my wife.

Be sure to read the sequel to this article, 101 Ways To Tell Your Wife, "I Love You."